Karma is a Beast

Sometimes you have to wonder if Karma really does exist.

In some form, whether it be nature or God, I don’t know….

But something exists and I think it’s finally starting to catch up with my ex husband, you know him as BD.

In a surprising turn of events, he has been posted on a website that was created to serve as a database of lying and cheating, good for nothing men.

A warning to all women out there, to stay away….

www.womansavers.com

Not only has my ex husband been posted on here, but his profile has been commented on by some very angry women who tell it like it is.

I got a copy in an odd email in the place for all that is evil…. MySpace.

I can’t help but feel a little bit happy by this.

And a little hopeful, that maybe the next girl might have a fighting chance to get away before she gets taken in and taken advantage of.

I haven’t spoken about my ex husband in a long time, when in all reality we very much deal with him every day almost.

In the form explaining his lifestyle and endless coverups to Ethan.

It’s an uphill battle and he doest make it easy.

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BD , my ex husband and Ethan’s Dad, basically put me through it for a good hard 3 years.

Off and on a little bit longer.

Severe drug and alcohol use, lying, cheating, abusing, anything you can think of pretty much until he finally walked out and left Ethan and I. Abandoned us at his mother’s house of all places to move in with another woman.

Well, BD has since been a poster dead beat dad.

Sure, I filed all the paperwork with the State of Florida to go after him for child support, but they “couldn’t find him”.

“Here’s an address where he is staying, this is his girlfriends’ house, and I can take you to it.”

“Its not where his license says he is at”

An overworked and disinterested social worker would reply,

My thoughts, well of course not – there are other women trying to hunt him down for the same thing, he doesn’t want to be “found”

No legal employer, no legal address and no help from the state.

After months of submitting paperwork and getting nowhere, it was case closed.

I asked BD directly for help and got the run around.

So while he drove around in a new truck and went off to play on his Jet Ski every weekend, I went to work my 3rd job.

I was too fatigued to become bitter.

Fast forward to about 2 months ago and I get a phone call from BD’s current girlfriend, whom I had never had a conversation with before in my life.

18 and pregnant with his 4th child.

She wants to know if the things Josh has been telling her are true….

What she told me just completely blew me away.

Lie after lie, each one more complex than the one before it.

My personal favorite, the one I have repeated over and over like a broken record because the audacity of it all simply knocks my socks off.

Are you ready for this?

When she asked him why he doesn’t pay child support for Ethan whom he sees about 3 days a month (if things are going well) he told her that

he decided to get a lawyer and fight me in court for full custody of Ethan, which he won. He and his girlfriend at the time (the woman he left me for) then went off to raise Ethan alone while I ran off to be a lesbian and party like crazy. After all these years, BD has only just let me have Ethan back so that I can rebuild my relationship with him.

I nearly choked to death when I heard this.

Sadly, it’s not the first time I’m heard some variation of this story from one girlfriend or another.

Though this one certainly took the cake on exaggeration.

I corrected BD’s girlfriend that, no – none of that happened. In fact, BD kidnapped Ethan for about a week and blackmailed me that if I went after him for child support he would get his lawyer and fight me in court.

Something he knew I could not afford, because while he lived lavishly in his girlfriend’s apartment, Ethan and I scraped by on ramen noodles in a crime infested ghetto.

BD’s girlfriend went on to tell me that BD had not stopped using drugs as he said, but had been doing both coke and crack cocaine in the past year.

“He never did it around Ethan though!”

I think to myself, this poor girl is too naive to know that she should not be telling me this stuff.

After some thought, I call my lawyer.

I can afford one now that I’m married and not scraping by.

Now that I’m not working my hands to the bone, I can possibly get BD to do what he should have done on his own.

I needed it then more than ever, but I’ll take it now.

Ethan does need to go to college, do something that his Dad made sure I didn’t.

I haven’t felt this way in a long time.

I’ve got some kind of righteous indignation.

I’m angry.

I’m angry at BD because after all I did, he disrespected me even to the last degree.

Even when I was gone, he smeared my name.

I raised his son and he had the audacity to take credit for it.

I will let him know that he can’t push me around anymore.

I am tired of being weak and afraid of a man who beats up girls and little children.

A child molester and a creep.

I am proud of all his exes who are coming out and speaking against him.

One girl said it simply,

“He is dirt”

Yes.

He is.


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